Read 1 Peter 3:7
“Husbands, in the same way…”
Some Thoughts…
This little verse does not quite fit with the context of “submission in the face of injustice” – To me that is very important to notice…Peter does not want to leave the discussion of marriage as a one sided responsibility of women giving all and men taking all…no, not at all! Peter stops and addresses the ones who holds the power in their day and says – Now for us men, we must be like Jesus too (in the same way) with gentleness and a willing submission to the needs of the one God has given us to be our life partner…and here is Peter’s advice to the husband, quick and to the point, so pay attention:
1) “Be considerate” – or, better said; “know your wife” – literally it says “live according to knowledge” – It is the sacred task of every husband to gain deep understanding of his wife – know what makes her tick, her likes, dislikes, fears, and dreams…know her. And know her well!
2) “As you live with your wives” – The phase “Live with your wife” calls men to cultivate closeness…don’t run off to focus on your personal hobbies and duties and leave her on the sideline of your life…you’ve made a commitment – Live with her, share who you are with her, avoid things that exclude her…be present in her life…share her experiences, not just your own – it’s a life partnership. Give an ear to her need to tell you about her day, and then open your mouth and tell her about yours. Share your life with her!
3) “And treat them with respect” – Honor your wife – There are two very important facts about our wives that husbands must treasure and value and guard with our lives – 1) She is physically weaker, like a precious and fragile vase – not weaker emotionally or mentally, but for sure without the benefits that men enjoy in a male dominated world. She has delicate beauty to be protected, honored and celebrated as only her husband can. 2) She is co-heir with me – she is my equal in Christ, my partner, not my servant and it is my duty to elevate her life more and more every day.
And why is all of this important? “So that nothing will hinder your prayers.” My relationship with Christ (as His bride) is intertwined with my relationship with my bride. It is that important!
A Prayer…
Father, make me a husband like You…with life-giving love and self-giving patience; with a heart to know Julie in deeper and deeper ways as we grow toward eternity…May I live with her in wisdom, understanding, and respect of the precious treasure that she is…make me a husband like You. Amen.